The other day I was having a phone conversation and I mentioned to that person that sometimes I feel like I’m a yo-yo in our relationship such as it is–or perhaps we’re more akin to a pair of yo-yos. (Cut that out! I’m trying to be serious here.)
How exactly to define our relationship is part of the problem. I think the easiest way to say it is that we’ve been very good friends for a very long time. It’s that fine line between friends and ??? that’s tripped us up along the way. To say it’s complicated is an understatement. Mind you, I’m not complaining. Because whether it’s been up or down, it is a relationship that has enriched my life in far too many ways.
I know it’s not just me–or us. I’m sure many of you can relate to that feeling in any type of relationship (e.g., friendship, family, lovers, etc.) where it seems the two of you get close, then closer, then pull back, then even closer, then way apart. I think you get the idea. Relationships are a series of ups and downs, highs and lows. Mathematically speaking, we’re all parts of multiple sinusoids:
Seriously.
So we all bounce along in the universe. That’s a whole hell of a lot of bouncing bodies smashing into one another. Some bodies repel. Some attract. Other ricochet; Some are deflected. All the while, imagine how much friction and heat we produce? But, that’s a topic for another time.
Being a yo-yo has its rewards. It also has its share of equal and opposite reaction. When it comes right down to it, I don’t think many of us would willing give up our oscillating trajectories with one another. There’s just too much to lose.
Yet, I sometimes wonder just how much wear and tear that string can take. That’s the give me pause part…yo.
